My cat is dead.
We are in deep mourning. Suddenly the cat threw a blood clot that paralyzed his back legs and put him in terrible pain. The heart damage was too extreme to treat so we had to make the terrible choice to end the suffering for Whisper. #4 son is devastated. This was truly his cat. #3 son is angry at the world. I face having to tell #1 and #2 sons someday. They are still in basic. Would you tell them via letter, when they eventually call, or would you wait until they are finished? It’s not that they can do anything. It’s a question of when do you share the pain and would this simply distract them. We had informed both of them that if anything happened to a human family member of the household while they were in basic, we wanted them to remain there and not come home. We didn’t review the etiquette for informing of the death of a very valued feline member of the family. Grief.
